Send questions via e-mail to [email protected] by mail to Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 N. Source: Shutterstock It’s good to be friends first. Some people fall in love much quicker than others; but I’m close to believing that if it takes you more than six months to decide what you want from a person, the connection just isn’t there.This is usually because one of us wants more than what the other is willing to give.Just like any situation with the opposite sex, there are exceptions to the rule, because there is no one-size-fits-all set of rules for every relationship; but being unofficial for too long while one person wants more is usually a situation destined for disaster. Neither of us has previous relationship experience, and he often thanks me for being so patient with him.He is thoughtful in every other way, but I am very frustrated. I don't regret meeting him and would like him to remain a part of my life, but as a friend rather than a romantic partner. — Hoping for More Dear Hoping: One important element of intimacy is the choice to be bold enough to be honest about what you want.I told my parents about the recent development and they were quite upset that my friend invited others to their home without consulting them.Including my parents, there will be 13 people staying at my parents' home for five nights.
If I am spending a lot of time around a man and we are ‘playing couple’ without a commitment, I’ve decided that after six months, playtime is over.
Because I know women and men are different when it comes to…well just about everything, I asked three guys how long it usually takes for them to decide if they want a commitment. They all agreed that if they are consistently (keyword: consistently), dating someone for about six to eight months, that next step should be coming soon. Every situation is different, but I’ve never dated someone consistently for a year and it ended in a relationship.
To me, this time spent meant that either we had gotten comfortable just dating and were subconsciously tied to just that, or simply put, maybe he just wasn’t into me.
My parents are older and I cannot expect them to feed all of these guests, invited or not, during their stay.
I am not sure how to handle this situation without upsetting or angering anyone.