I listed 10 of them and I hope they will help you realize if yours is on the game or not: 1) You in Jakarta: To be honest, if it was a massage parlour, a club in Kota, a bar in Blok M, or a karaoke, there is a 99% chance she is a fake. Your only chance is that she was in such a place by accident, but that never really happens.
2) Your Indonesian girlfriend in an abnormal manner.
What does she like about you exactly that other expats don't have? Jakarta is a decadent city: Male expats cheat on their wife and they end up with local Indonesian women who cheat on them too.
After 5 years leaving in Jakarta, I think I’ve heard 100 hundred of these stories.
It is very common for anyone familiar with Jakarta nightlife.
Prostitutes are not a precise category of the population like in Europe: Things are more complicated: In any given night club in Jakarta, you will meet many girls who will be ready to sleep with you without giving too much thought about whether they like you or not: You are an expat, presumably rich, and they know they may get what she wants later.
This is not an exhaustive list of all the signs that can exist showing your Indonesian girlfriend is cheating on you.
If you have experienced or observed on other expat/bargirl couples some behaviours that could help other readers determine how sincere their relationship is, please feel free to share with us!
10) : She misses many of your calls, she does not reply to your emails, or she does not try to gain your trust...6) When you meet your girlfriend's friends, you realize that all of them have a rich expat boyfriend, and , and you even feel that she thinks it's normal.She will tell you that you are different, because your love is so special, etc..I remember my ex was very confuse about it: She was telling me about her Dutch guy with whom she had been for 3 years, her American guy she had dated for 2 and a half year, her German guy that she had loved for 4 years, etc.She was only 24, but she had had lots of relationships, and long ones.