Interracial couples also have to examine the stereotypes that they hold between each other. Today’s society is a “pick and choose” type of place where we are use to having lots of options.
Did you hook up with a Black man because of his sexual prowess? Well this type of attitude does not translate very well over into the romantic arena, and yet, many people approach their love life like shopping in a mall.
Are you dating Asian men because you want smart children? When you are dating, it is especially important to determine how the other person sees you.
Both notions are incredibly foolish and dismissive of the deep and true qualities of romantic relationships. Are you being seen as a potential mate, or as this person’s next adventure?
The downside to that however is people grow to believe that in order to insure the survival of your culture or community, you have to marry only within that particular community. Many websites and blogs that seem to celebrate interracial relationships are really just a front to perpetuate very narrow views on why interracial relationships are “ideal”, “preferred” or “superior”.
Unfortunately the “battle for love” is one that is fought among people of all persuasions.
Dating interracially is one of the topics I have no issues talking about.
However, in the past 24 hours, I was censored from another blog that focused on interracial realtionships — specifically Black women who date interracially — because of my comments regarding White and Black men and the disparity in their penis size (which is ultimately a non-issue: read on, and you’ll see why).
No one demonized my grandmother for this, because she was born and raised in a country where 90% of the population was Black.
Here in the United States, yes, we are blessed to have a diverse society with large, vibrant communities of different cultures. 5 years ago, I automatically saw anyone else who was dating interracially as my ally…or at least a kindred spirit. While I’m not sure if this is bred by jealously or insecurity, the end result is ongoing challenges to the integrity of your own relationship. Other Black women who date interracially (including my BF’s ex), seem quick to make judgement calls on the quality of our relationship (in spite of having very limited information available).