Today any 14-year-old can access such photos online in seconds.
Role models for young men, from pop singer John Mayer to the 2009 World Series MVP Hideki Matsui, talk openly about their collections of porn (see note 4, below).
If a young woman finds her soulmate, and her soulmate happens to be female, then she may begin to experience feelings she's never felt before. Which brings me to the second point I've encountered in my interviews with young people. But today, no boy wants to admit that he's the weirdo who doesn't look at online porn.
Twenty years ago, when I opened my practice in a suburb of Washington DC, it was rare to find 14-year-old boys who were looking at pornography every day. When I meet with a group of 14-year-old boys and I ask them, "how many of you guys subscribe to a porn site? Twenty years ago, hardcore pornography was tucked away in adult bookstores.
The principal told the girls that all prom couples have to be boy-girl. Mc Millen called the ACLU, which threatened the school with legal action. Mc Millen's civil rights, he wouldn't force them to hold a prom. Mc Millen attended an alternative prom at the Fulton County Country Club.
According to the Associated Press, her girlfriend's parents wouldn't allow the 16-year-old girlfriend to go, so Mc Millen escorted another young woman instead.
to be lesbian or bisexual doesn't explain why a growing proportion of young women are lesbian or bisexual. But, as Professor Roy Baumeister at Florida State University and others have shown, sexual attraction in many women seems to be more malleable (see note 3 below).
If a teenage girl kisses another teenage girl, for whatever reason, and she finds that she likes it - then things can happen, and things can change.
A woman may reach her 40's, believe that she is a straight woman, and then find herself falling in love with her soulmate - who happens to be a woman.
Is there any connection between these two trends - between the rise in the number of young women who self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, and the increasing normalization and acceptance of pornography in the lives of young men? A young woman told me how her boyfriend several years ago suggested that she shave her pubic hair, so that she might more closely resemble the porn stars who were this young man's most consistent source of sexual arousal. "It was just such a welcome change, to snuggle under a blanket on the couch with my girlfriend, watch a movie, and talk about God and death and growing old, to be intimate emotionally and spiritually as well as physically.
I don't know a guy who could even comprehend the conversations we have."I wish Constance Mc Millen and her girlfriend all the best.
Over the past seven years, I've posed this question to hundreds of teenagers and young adults across the United States.
The most common answer I get isn't really an answer.