So from his perspective, this is a perfect situation: He still gets to be technically single but also has your ongoing exclusive commitment, sex, and companionship. So if he starts feeling pressure from you for him to get into a relationship with him, he’s going to pull back… It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.
Everyone wants to be liked and if there’s any potential to the relationship whatsoever, the guy wants to know that you like him. So when he’s texting you sweet things, saying all that mushy stuff and being really attentive, there is an element of wanting to hook you in and see where he stands with you.The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?“Dropping the mask” is something I talk about extensively in the article link below…After that guy determines that you really like him, he has you, and he’s no longer worried that he could lose you to another guy.