If you’ve been following ‘Online Dating for Asian Men‘, you’ll know that choosing the right picture for your profile is hugely important in attracting the right kind of women; in real life, you have the luxury of your body language and suave personality to help you out, but online you often have nothing more than your profile picture before a girl deletes your message without reading it. But how do you know what’s the best picture to use?Wouldn’t it be great if there were some kind of service or app that could figure it out for you so you don’t have to spend weeks testing it out and missing out on those beautiful girls? If you haven’t figured it out already, I am a HUGE fan of OK Cupid.I went from virtually no interest in my profile, to not being able to keep up with how many wonderful guys were responding to me.Within a couple weeks of having posted my new photos, I’d met the most amazing man I’ve ever met, and we are dating seriously now.OK Cupid collects the information, sends it your way, and you find out which one got more “yes” votes. My Best Face (and again, there are other crowd judging sites you can use) is how I figured out that I needed to use the picture of myself in Paris as the “attractive” shot for my initial experiment in the ‘Online Dating For Asian Men’ product. There’s nothing creative, outdoorsy, adventurous, romantic or any of the other qualities that makes a top notch photo which you’ll see at the end. Only a minority of women are attracted to the “club guy,” and that’s what this picture looks like. So did it work when I started optimizing my profile picture using those three principals? Just changing out my profile picture to one that had been scientifically and empirically shown to be more attractive to women got me a HUGE increase in women responding to our test profiles.Based solely on the picture, with no other information provided, I got a whopping SEVENTY-SEVEN PERCENT approval rating. My physique is visible enough that she knows there’s nothing seriously wrong with me. If it’s meant to show your personality, all it shows is that your personality is blank as a white wall. To the rest of the female world, pictures of you in a club with beautiful women cropped out only serve to make you look like a player, not like a cool guy who knows a lot of women. I’m financially independent, since Paris is an expensive city. And then when you COMBINED that with the afterburner fuel of an OPTIMIZED OPENER? I was able to DOUBLE my responses and thus my dates with women.To fake the look that someone else is taking your picture, we’re going to use a tripod. This one requires a separate adapter to hold an i Phone.If you don’t want to buy a tripod, a table stacked with books and a Kleenex box may temporarily suffice. The goal is to get your camera a few feet away from you at about eye level.
I’m not even talking about the fact that you’re the master of the red-eye photo (okay, maybe a little). What I’m talking about is something far worse than making a simple mistake that will fail you in photography class: I’m talking about choosing a picture for your online dating profile that turns women OFF.
(You do NOT actually need to have a friend present, let me remind you.
We’re just pretending you’re not by yourself in your apartment.) As for where this scene should take place… (Bedrooms read as presumptuous at best; predatory at worst.) The most important element, however, is lighting.
In order to do that, you can’t use your arm to take the photos.
Selfies distort the proportions of your face, making your forehead or nose look larger than it is.